In honor of it being Anniversary Week {yes, we're celebrating all week!}, I did a little Q&A with the husband about marriage.
A Q&A is perfectly appropriate because our relationship was pretty much built on a high-stakes question game. I say it was high-stakes because he informed me that "we" weren't going to work if we weren't in love with each other by "Question 100." {Although he now claims that he already loved me when he put that rule in place...he was just trying to get a feel for how I felt about him????}. He followed that one up by telling me that we should probably just break up if we weren't engaged by "Question 1,000." {And he let me know that he was keeping track of the question numbers in his head. He'd update me at certain milestones, so I didn't need to worry about it.}
A Q&A is perfectly appropriate because our relationship was pretty much built on a high-stakes question game. I say it was high-stakes because he informed me that "we" weren't going to work if we weren't in love with each other by "Question 100." {Although he now claims that he already loved me when he put that rule in place...he was just trying to get a feel for how I felt about him????}. He followed that one up by telling me that we should probably just break up if we weren't engaged by "Question 1,000." {And he let me know that he was keeping track of the question numbers in his head. He'd update me at certain milestones, so I didn't need to worry about it.}
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| Our question game even showed up on the bow of my Christmas gift. "One year closer too/to/2/two Question #1000." |
And so the question game continues...
Me: What, if anything, has changed since we said "I do"?
Ryan: Hmmm...{thinks for a minute or so}...Well, what has changed for you?
Me: My last name.
Ryan: Umm...my address?
Me: No.
Ryan: What? That's not good enough?
Me: No, it's just not true.
Ryan: Oh, ok. {thinks a bit more as he's browning hamburger for dinner} One thing that's changed is that I really have to mash up the hamburger when I cook it now...you know, instead of leaving it chunky like I like it. THAT is one thing that's changed...but it's ok, I'll make it how you like it.
Me: My last name.
Ryan: Umm...my address?
Me: No.
Ryan: What? That's not good enough?
Me: No, it's just not true.
Ryan: Oh, ok. {thinks a bit more as he's browning hamburger for dinner} One thing that's changed is that I really have to mash up the hamburger when I cook it now...you know, instead of leaving it chunky like I like it. THAT is one thing that's changed...but it's ok, I'll make it how you like it.
Me: What is your favorite memory from our first year of marriage?
Ryan: That one Saturday we went to Canton {Canton Trade Days} and then went out with my friends that night. It was just a cool day. You shopped all day, but you were still up for hanging out with my friends when we got back to Dallas.
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| That one day we ventured out to Canton Trade Days... and survived! |
Me: What's the most important lesson you've learned so far in our marriage?
Me: What's one tradition/habit we've established during our first year of marriage?
Ryan: Sometimes it's best to just give you your space.
Me: Touché.
Me: Touché.
Me: What's one tradition/habit we've established during our first year of marriage?
Ryan: Ordering pizza on Sunday evenings.
Me: What do you appreciate most about me?
Ryan: How much you care about people other than yourself. How you put others before yourself...that would be the more proper phrasing.
Me: What’s one thing I do that drives you crazy?
Ryan: Leaving your wet towels on the floor...or the bed...or anywhere that's not hanging up or in the hamper. ORRRR telling me I can't wear spring colors in the fall.
Me: I said ONE thing.
Me: In what way do you hope our future children are like me?
Ryan: Your gratefulness and thoughtfulness toward others.
Me: What is one quality of mine you hope they don't inherit?
Ryan: Your insomnia.
Me: What three words best describe me?
Ryan: Beautiful, smart and unstable...{laughs hysterically}. I'm just kidding about the unstable! Beautiful, smart and determined.
Me: What three words best describe me?
Ryan: Beautiful, smart and unstable...{laughs hysterically}. I'm just kidding about the unstable! Beautiful, smart and determined.
Me: What advice would you give a recently-engaged or newlywed couple?
Ryan: Don't let her eat the cake. No, no, no...I'm teasing. Don't put that.
Me: Too late.
Ryan: You know what "Don't eat the cake" means, right?
Me: ... {I just rolled my eyes}
Ryan: Learn to pick your battles. I'm leaving it at that. And never go to bed mad.
Me: Is there anything else you'd like to say about marriage?
Ryan: It looks good on me.
Me: Too late.
Ryan: You know what "Don't eat the cake" means, right?
Me: ... {I just rolled my eyes}
Ryan: Learn to pick your battles. I'm leaving it at that. And never go to bed mad.
Me: Is there anything else you'd like to say about marriage?
Ryan: It looks good on me.
Me: {I can't help but agree!}
